More Good News: Real Men are Trending Again
This new Golden Age of America has been quite the ride so far.
In record time, we’ve seen the border closed, mass deportation begin, waste and fraud in government put on notice, gas prices down, investments up, the slow death of DEI culture, and the canceling of barbaric child gender-related mutilations. Not to mention all that’s happened on the world stage, with tariffs, peace deals, hostages brought home, and most recently, Iran’s nuclear threat scuttled. That’s by no means an exhaustive list. There are dozens – maybe even hundreds of other accomplishments piling up at the feet of this still-new administration.
Another critical win that must be mentioned: the return of masculinity to America.
We’re talking about real men. They are trending again, and real women are here for it!
Please don’t get the wrong idea, thinking that my writing about the vital masculine role in our cultural fabric is in any way belittling the talent, skill, and leadership of women. Here at Moms for America, we know better than most the world-changing influence of strong women like you. This week, though, we want to examine how some in society have attempted to undermine men. We are celebrating the irreplaceable value they bring to our lives, families, and culture.
Ever since woke ideology began to worm its way into society, one particularly damaging element was a vocal and prevalent disdain for men. The patriarchy (men leading families) was called abusive and even evil, with white men being the most-hated villains. Masculine men became public enemy number one, given the label “toxic.” If the haters had their way, they would be entirely banned from polite society.
Men with traditional values were put in one big pot, accused of oppressing women by wanting to protect and provide. Their aggressive, competitive natures were demonized, and any unwillingness on their part to deep dive into their emotions was deemed unacceptable.
Instead, we saw men on fashion runways wearing dresses. Not even the drag queens. Designers actually began bringing flowing gowns into men’s fashion. It was as weird as it sounds – maybe weirder. If you haven’t seen it, you probably don’t want to. Thankfully, that may have been a bridge too far and nobody seems to be getting rich from selling frocks to fellas.
Then, the men who looked normal, wearing jeans, polos, or flannel, especially those who held traditional values, were denigrated. At the same time, drag queens took center stage, especially in the last few years. These men, cosplaying as women, were glorified and given access to women’s and children’s spaces.
Men were told not to “mansplain,” not to assert themselves, and not to lead. Schools taught about toxic masculinity (without teaching what healthy masculinity is), and young boys were left with an identity crisis. Girls on TikTok videos ranted about men and claimed they don’t need them or marriage, which they discarded as old-fashioned.
Even a former First Lady, Michelle Obama, recently corrected someone, asking them not to call her Mrs. Obama because she doesn’t think of herself that way. She also said she’s glad she never had a son because he would’ve been “just like Barack.” Yikes.
Hollywood usually portrays dads as inept, dumb, or ridiculously chauvinistic, a twisted caricature of what it means to be a man. It’s caused real men to lose their place in society – and to shrink from their normal behavior and nature. With that sustained attack on manhood, the suicide rate for men in 2023 was roughly four times that of women.
Before going further. What does it mean to be a real man?
Here are a few attributes that spring to mind:
Strong
Honest
Daring – willing to risk for others
Chivalrous
Takes Initiative (asking a woman out on a date, or for her hand in marriage)
Protector of family and community
Hard Worker/Provider
Character-driven Convictions
Faithful
Enterprising
Leader
Lover (ideally, in the context of marriage)
Which part of that is unappealing? Somehow, this became a list to be ashamed of. Sure, not every man lives up to each of those attributes, just as we flounder when compared to the Proverbs 31 ‘she-can-do-it-all’ woman.
Instead, men measured by woke standards are supposed to be:
Feeling
Sensitive
Non-assertive, subservient to women
Non-offensive by refraining from traditional courtesies to women
A follower rather than a leader
Wait for women to make the first move
Shun the patriarchy
Non-ambitious
Oh my.
Masculinity’s Comeback Started at The Top
Thankfully, authentic manhood is making a comeback. It all started earlier this year when President Trump took office. Most would agree, 45/47 is a man’s man. He makes no apology for it, says what he means, compliments beautiful women, and also refers to handsome men as “central casting.”
Our President doesn’t spend time worrying about saying anything politically incorrect; he calls it like he sees it. He’s done plenty to help individuals, ask any of those who have come home after being incarcerated or held hostage overseas. Instead of talking a good game, Trump made the deals to bring Americans home. We don’t often hear a lot of talk about people’s feelings coming from the Oval Office; instead, we see bold action. It’s about as manly as it gets.
It’s refreshing.
Meanwhile, the Secretary of Defense, Pete Hegseth, leads as the stereotypical masculine American man. He guides our military not with feelings and equity, but with a focus on the effectiveness and lethality of our warfighters. He’s removed transgendered men and women out of our armed forces to focus once again on the mission instead of diversity.
After four years of DEI in virtually every area of American life, one might wonder if this radical shift would be welcome. The verdict is in. Recruitment is up significantly, with the US Army meeting its annual recruitment goal four months ahead of schedule.
Dads Are Back in Style
I’m old enough to remember when fathers were honored and appreciated. They led (not always perfectly), provided, and protected. It was part of American life. Despite claims that women are capable of raising children on their own, and that two mothers can be a suitable substitute for the traditional husband-wife-kids model, the data simply doesn’t bear that out.
Dads are needed. Sometimes it isn’t possible, but the best scenario for kids is when a father is in the home. A recent study reveals that kids get better grades with an engaged dad and have much less depression and experience or witness less violence in their communities.1
As we Make America Great Again, young women should value the young men who embody the best part of manhood. Those who are enterprising, hard-working, and willing to get their hands dirty to create a career that can help support a family are the gold standard, and they are welcome again in the USA.
America’s New Generation of Strong, Capable Men
Charlie Kirk of Turning Point USA had a few things to say about manhood in our culture. “Society needs strong men and strong women, and we need to understand those archetypes and their roles and their duties and responsibilities clearly, and how they complement one another and how they need each other. Our society has become hyperfeminized. Men have gone into the Peter Pan, lost boy mentality. It creates… the most suicidal, alcohol addicted, drug addicted, depressed generation in history. We need a society that actually [is] willing to say out loud that it’s not toxic masculinity, it is necessary masculinity in our society.”2
As moms, we hold a powerful position to raise the next generation of men (and women) who will lead America. If you have sons, don’t give in to cultural pressure that still exists to raise them to deny the things that God put in their masculine design.
Teach your young men to be brave, strong, patriotic, and resilient. Give them opportunities to take risks and to conquer. Limit gaming – and protect your sons from the lure and danger of pornography. Instead, let them get dirty, ride four-wheelers, hunt, and play sports. Guide them to be respectful and courteous to girls, regardless of the choices other guys make. Help them find a strong and irrepressible faith in God, and to dream of one day marrying and building a family with a like-minded woman.
In a Prager U video, Allie Stuckey made a strong case for the fact that true masculinity isn’t toxic at all. She explained that “Aggression, violence, and unbridled ambition can’t be eliminated from the male psyche; it can only be harnessed. And when they are harnessed, they become tools for good, not for harm. The same masculine traits that bring destruction also defeat tyranny. The traits that foster greed also build economies. The traits that drive men to take foolish risks also drive men to take heroic risks.”3
Thank God for men becoming men again. As women, we are strong, able, and strategic. Still, we can never fully fill the roles men play in our families and in our society.
Podcast Note: It was great to discuss this topic with Braeden Sorbo, as he recently wrote a book, Embrace Masculinity: Lifting Men Up in a World That Pushes Them Down. We also spoke with Alexander Spellane and Nicholas Scott of Fisher Liberty Gold, a conservative-owned precious metals, gold, and silver investment company that specializes in IRAs.
1 dailycitizen/focusonthefamily.com
2 youtube.com – Charlie Kirk
3 youtube.com – Prager U
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